There have been many changes for me in the last year. I became a bride, stepmother, mother-in-law, dog owner, and wonderfully I became a Ya-Ya (grandmother) this week! I was already a mother, employee, friend, sister, daughter, bread-winner, guidance giver…the list goes on. I know you understand, because you wear many different hats too. I am giving up some hats and trying on new ones. I’m especially liking the Ya-Ya hat!
The most important part of these changes are the relational changes. It has sometimes been difficult for my heart to balance everything. How do I develop relationship without being smothering? How do I make myself available for all of these young adults without “getting all into their business”? Did you know dogs need lovin’ too? So much to learn, so much wisdom needed. Adjusting to my new hats and finding the right fit will take some time. Hmm, big ole floppy hat or a beret? Yes.
The goal, I’m finding, is to move beyond “Pinterest” thinking. Pinterest is a great website where people post pictures of anything. It is filled with fashion ideas, DYI ideas, cooking, decorating, entertaining, photography, anything. Everyone I know who does Pinterest does what I do; we see a picture and think “I could so totally do that, it will be amazing” and we “repin” the picture to our boards so it will be there when we are ready to copy the idea. In reality I have only used a few of the ideas, but I think about them a lot. How often do I pin something to my real-life board and hope to someday follow through? In moving beyond this kind of thinking I must move beyond thoughts and into action. I must cultivate my thoughts and cause them to grow and take shape and become action. It means I fight fear, tiredness, feelings of inadequacy, apathy, and more. I guess you would say these are the weeds in my garden.
I have found that the hardest part of cultivating thought is to remember that the anticipation of something is far more difficult than the doing of it. Once I begin something it gets easier, and when my thought is seen through to completion, yielding action, I am pleased. Very pleased. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying to do it alone in a “boot-strap” mentality. Surround yourselves with good friends, make sure some of them are older than you-and wiser. Decide which thoughts are for cultivating and which are to be deleted, take time to relax and time to have fun.
In regards to all of the changes in my life, bring it on! I will love, care for, seek wisdom, guide, nurture, learn, and grow. I will, over time, find the balance for the questions above and many others too. I hope to cultivate my thoughts and to never set a ceiling on them and then yield action and enjoy the fruits of my labor (like starting a blog) So, perhaps the best hat is a gardening hat.
A note about myself: I could not do the things above without God. I believe He is real and that Jesus is the Son of God. I also believe in black holes and quantum physics. Meaning I think you can be intelligent, capable, well read, well spoken, well-educated and still believe in God. This means I study His Word, I pray, I learn about him and I lean on an intimate relationship with Him. I never do it perfectly and if you don’t believe these things (even if you do) you should know that I am sometimes a hypocrite, ignorant, and mistaken-I human and real. I seek Him for strength and wisdom and I am assured it will be given to me. It makes all the difference.