“When you are between your mother and your daughter” or “There is no Manual for growing older”

I am, I suppose, officially middle aged.  I am 43!  I have to say that I didn’t realize I’d be so young when I got older.

How do I know I’m getting older? I’ll tell you: It was a lovely shopping day like many we’ve had before.  My mother (for those who know me- my mother in VA) and my daughter shop like it’s an Olympic sport, while I shop on the amateur level.  This means that I like to shop, but do not have the stamina they have nor can I spend thaaaattt long in dressing room.  I mean really!  Put it on, spin around, approve or disapprove, get dressed and leave.  Simple!  Anyway, as I was saying it started out as a shopping day (pronounced “sha-opppiinng”  in a sing-song voice) we chatted, showed each other “the cutest outfit” or the “shoes to die for” and then it happened.  I thought I’d try something on, but there was nothing to try.  The clothes were either too young for me or too old for me.  I could look like a middle aged woman trying to be her daughter or I could look like a younger woman dressing like an old lady- Mom, if you are ready this I am not calling you an old lady, really!  At first I thought, oh well it is just the first store, but no.  Store after store nothing. Sigh.

Now, don’t get me wrong, there are a lot of great looking people my age: Jennifer Aniston, Jennifer Lopez, Uma Thurman, Mini Driver, Catherine-Zeta-Jones, the list goes on, buuut well let’s face it.  I do not possess their bodies.  Let’s just say that a few kids, gravity, and age have been effective in adding to the impression, in my mind at least, that I am aging.  So, while Jennifer Aniston can dress the way she does, most of us can’t and don’t. Ahhh well, it isn’t like Michael Kors is offering to custom make me a dress anyway.

Now, what I’m about to say next will cause a stir….. I stopped coloring my hair.  Yep that is right.  A-la-natural, which means gray (graying).  I decided

1. I think many women are beautiful with gray hair

2. I hate coloring.  I’m just afraid of commitment I guess

3. It is cheaper and less fuss

4.  Why not, I am after all truly getting older.  Why not embrace it.

Ok, ok, sshhhhhh I can hear you ladies now.  I won’t die, nor will you if seen with me nor will people see us together and say to you “Oh my goodness, look how old you are, I didn’t realize it until I saw you with your gray friend”.  It is just hair.  But, you are right-sort of, it isn’t so much that it makes me look older as that it I proves that I am older.  Ok, I admit it.  I’m getting older. There I said it.

After feeling that my shopping day had led me to ponder purchasing cemetery plots, ok maybe that is a slight exaggeration; I decided that I stand by my decision.  Just embrace it!  So, maybe I can’t shop in the Jr. section and- Stacey and Clinton tell me I can’t anyway. Be age appropriate and all that, right?(You What Not To Wearers, know what I mean) I can still wear attractive outfits with (maybe) some toned down hotness and I am faaaar from ready for Alfred Dunner.   J Crew, Gap, The Loft hmmm maybe I can rock them a little.  I think I’ll give it another try.

After a little consideration I’ve decided age is partly how you behave and think.  I’m not quite ready for the nursing home and Jennifer Aniston is older than I am and look at her! Really, it is what this blog is all about; I’m going to cultivate the thought that I’m only as old as I feel and yield the action of a living with a better attitude and a bigger bounce in my step-one with va va vavoom, with bow chicka chicka wow wow, ummm no. what do they say these days?

Besides, being older comes with some perks like life experiences, wisdom, etc.  I may not like going forward and I have yet to find the manual for aging, but I wouldn’t go backwards either.  I like me, I like life, and I still like shopping.  Hmmm, maybe if I train I can be ready for the 2014 shopping games and If I train harder I could do it with Jennifer Lopez’s rear ( what? one can dream).

Update: After a minor depression over getting older Lisa has gone on to shop again and has found many hot (age appropriate) outfits and is currently in training for the 2014 shopping games.

PS: Stay tuned to the journey of grayness, it is an experiment the data is not in yet.

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4 thoughts on ““When you are between your mother and your daughter” or “There is no Manual for growing older”

  1. Julia A.Wright says:

    I said there very same thing to someone recently-was it you? AGe comes and must come with much grace given and received!

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