I am coming home to be a homemaker even though there are no more little kids and it is kind of weird. On the one hand it is exciting. It has always been a struggle to feel that I could give myself 100% to a job and 100% to my home. It always worked for a while and then began to fall apart like when the spinning plates on sticks begin to fall. Then you put them all back and give it another go. I am hearing more men say similar things these days. That is a great sign that our society is looking at relationships and family! Working from home or away from home it is about balance.
It gives me great pleasure to have a clean, warm, inviting home where my family and friends can walk in the door and feel safe and cared for. That makes this decision an exciting opportunity. One where I can be available for our grown kids and grandchild in a way I have never been able to before (or at least for many, many years). It is a chance to see how I can stretch and grow in other directions as well. Who knows where it will go?
On the other hand it is surprising to me that I feel a little ashamed. Like I should whisper what I am doing to people. I am blogging, learning new skills, caring for my family, caring for my home, being available to volunteer, have the chance to speak a few places, building relationships, making yummy meals, spending time with kids as they transition into full adulthood…. I can’t even really begin to list all of the opportunities. So what’s the deal?
The deal is I don’t make money doing those things , or most of them, and it feels like I’m not “doing my part”, though my husband is like this crazy smiling man all of the sudden. You should see him. He walks in the door and sees the clean house, the completed projects, smells the yummy food, hears about my day and grins from ear to ear. I don’t care if anyone thinks that is old fashioned or even sexist. The man is happy and that makes me very happy.
The second issue is the “what do you do?” question. Meaning what career have I chosen and is it deemed to be a culturally acceptable and pleasing career? Hmmm, well that is a good question. One I am still trying to answer. I’m happy, the kids are happy, my husband is happy, so far we can pay the bills, seems good to me. That said, I know it is a door to new things. I don’t think anything will be wasted in the decision and it can always change, but being a homemaker is nothing to be ashamed of. It is the chance to invest in, care for, and build relationships and lives in a different way. What a great opportunity!
I think the important thing to remember is that life is an adventure, one that keeps on going. I don’t know what I will “do” in the future, I don’t know what life will look like day-to-day even, but I do know that there are some things that when we are given the chance to invest in them we should. It could be a promotion, a new career, learning a new skill, travel, or even coming home. It could be so many different things and will continue to be new and different things as the years go by. Just embrace them, see where they go. So, here goes, I’m stepping into a new adventure! I hope you do too!
What about you? I’d love to hear about your adventures, thoughts, etc. Please feel free to post any comments.