Today’s tip for Amazingness:
Learning to say Thank you and You’re Welcome
Do you ever have a conversation that looks like this?
I’ll use myself as an example.
Lisa, you did a great job on that project
Maaan, did you see how many typos I had? Plus, I left out section 2
No, really…I thought it was nicely done
Seriously though, I should have added section 2 and double checked my work
Well… I though it was good, but maybe you’re right!
I have had plenty of conversations like that. It is as if it was up to me to convince the other person that they are quite mistaken and in fact I’m probably a loser. Perhaps he didn’t really understand how much I stunk!! I sure am glad I was able to convince him. WHHHATT! No! No, no, no!!!
This type of response comes from several places and almost every time it is a bad place. Usually it is an area of insecurity or a place we have been wounded in the past. In this case we find we can thank people all day long for something they have done or give them wonderful compliments, but if someone does it to us??? Well, we just can’t handle it.
This is a great opportunity to get in shape! Not like sit-ups and crunches, but maybe just as hard. Sometimes the practice of saying “thank you” and then zipping our lips takes great effort, it may even seem too hard. I promise you that as you do it, it will get easier. Over time you will be surprised to find that you actually believe them. Your confidence and security will grow and probably our humility too. First, you learn to hear what others see in you and second, you learn to see good in yourself and that is pretty powerful.
I encourage you not to speak poorly of yourself, if someone talked to your friend the way you do about yourself would you allow it? Then why would you for allow it in yourself? It is also important to remember that not only are you devaluing yourself when your refuse their compliment, but you are also devaluing their opinion!
Just a note: Sometimes we really did make a mess of something and it humble and right to admit that, but you will know and feel the difference in your heart. Most of the time that is not the case and you should try saying “thank you” first.
You’re welcome is another one of those places where our own insecurities get in the way. We usually reply with something like “It was nothing” or “No, thank you” or maybe “well, I really didn’t do anything”. It may actually seem to you as if you did “nothing”, but who are you to say that it didn’t help, touch, bless or wasn’t meaningful to the other person. When they say “Thank you”, just say “You’re welcome” and be glad in your heart, because, for that person it was something.
Amazingness is sometimes as simple as two words!
So, how’s it going towards my personal goals to amazing?
Goal one, my Shaklee Business: I spent a large part of the day watching tutorials, preparing scripts and getting ready for Friday. It felt great. As a result of my work yesterday I felt inspired to schedule other events and keep plugging away. The important part for me is to remember that I have the chance to change someone’s life for the better. Even one person makes this the best job ever!
Goal two, my health and fitness: I really felt frustrated yesterday. I am eating well and exercising, but I am nowhere near reaching my larger goals. This is probably the danger zone where I might be tempted to give up, but I will keep at it, I will keep moving and of course I will Strip and Shake.
100 Days to Amazing! You can do amazing things.
I believe you can; you believe you can too!
What the 100 Days is about:
I was at the Shaklee Global Conference August 12-16th and we were challenged to 100 Days of Amazing with the question of what could we accomplish in 100 days if we really tried? I was inspired by the challenge, both as a business builder who wants to grow my business in 100 days and as an individual! What could I do in 100 days?
My Journey to Amazing: My 100 Days to Amazing are committed to making a more successful business as a Shaklee Independent Distributor and I am also committed to 100 days to amazing health and fitness. I want to be fit for my future making sure that my health span matches my life span as closely as possible. This is my Journey.
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