Today’s tip for Amazingness:
Being Polite – A Lost Skill
There is something to be said for being yourself and being comfortable in your own skin, but this does not, nor should not mean we forget basic skills of politeness also know as our manners. You may think it is not important, but when someone is rude to you I’m sure you notice and so do they. You don’t want to be the rude one!
Being polite to another person is a sign of respect to the other as well as a reflection of you. It is important to realize that being fake and being polite are entirely different things when we learn to show respect with a genuine heart even if the others seems to deserve no respect. With a little practice you can develop the skill of politeness.
Here are a few basic guidelines:
- Say Thank you – It seems that in today’s world many don’t feel the need to say thank you because they feel that the other person was supposed to do whatever it is they did and therefore doesn’t deserve to be thanked. This isn’t true. We say “Thank you” out of appreciation and respect and if you don’t appreciate it start there! If you are a boss, parent, leader etc. This is a must!
- Say Please – Remember you are grateful for the help of others, saying please lets them feel it matters
- Say No Thank you- Saying “No, Thank you” can help you sound more appreciative as well as non-combative
- Let others go first
- Let ladies and elderly go first
- Don’t eat until everyone is seated and the host has has taken the first bite
- Do not make bodily noises in front of others- it’s just rude
- Watch your language – don’t tell inappropriate jokes, use racial slurs, or offensive language in public
- Take the time to listen
- Be punctual – the other person’s time is valuable too
- Take note and remember things about the person you are speaking to, it shows you are interested and care
These just begin to scratch the surface. Try thinking of other rules of politeness, the act of remembering make help you put them in practice.
For a great read and listen check out NPR’s story on Washington’s Guide to Civility and see how many still apply!
Here are a few quotes about politeness that I thought were thought provoking.
- There’s no chivalry in culture any more. Sometimes you meet someone who everyone says is polite and you’re like, ‘Wow,’ but then it’s like, ‘Hang on, isn’t everyone supposed to be polite?’ – will.i.am (yes, really- I’m quoting Will.I.Am!)
- Respect for ourselves guides our morals, respect for others guides our manners. – Laurence Sterne
- Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter what fork you use. – Emily Post
- Good manners sometimes means simply putting up with other people’s bad manners. – H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
- A man’s manners are a mirror in which he shows his portrait. – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
- I think the thing I miss most in our age is our manners. It sounds so old-fashioned in a way. But even bad people had good manners in the old days, and manners hold a community together, and manners hold a family together; in a way, they hold the world together. – Nancy Friday
- Good manners will open doors that the best education cannot. – Clarence Thomas
- The unkindness of your family makes you astonished to find friendship elsewhere. – Sense and Sensibility
Regarding the quote in the picture above “Being polite these days is so rare it is often confused with flirting”, how sad yet true. Mere kindness should be the basics we all carry, do not let it become extinct, but fuel it so that all would think ours is a flirtatious society!
My journey to amazing:
My Shaklee Life: My husband and I love having a Shaklee business. We enjoy the income it brings in, but more than that we really love the fact that every day I get to help someone else be healthier and help them be their best version of themselves. We love what Shaklee means to the environment and community as well! In our journey to amazing I – Lisa intend to grow my business and help more people and have fun in the process. If you’d like to learn more about Shaklee email us at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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100 Days to Amazing! You can do amazing things. I believe you can; you believe you can too!
What the 100 Days is about:
I was at the Shaklee Global Conference August 12-16th and we were challenged to 100 Days of Amazing with the question of what could we accomplish in 100 days if we really tried? I was inspired by the challenge, both as a business builder who wants to grow my business in 100 days and as an individual! What could I do in 100 days? This blog is a journey, an exercise in learning ways to be the best me, I can be and to help you be the best you, you can be while I’m at it!
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